'Don't look back, you're not going that way'.
I do wonder about the merits of this quote. There's more:
'The past is full of regrets, the future is full of opportunities'.
Looking forward has never been a problem for me. But, like a hamster on a wheel, I can get bogged down into that treadmill of life.
In my younger years I was too afraid to look back. I worried I may get lost in its sadness, pain and anger. I feared the darkness would blight any future light.
It's taken years, through therapy and a lot of love, both self and from wonderful family and friends, to help me look back with pride at how far I've come.
So many of us forget to stop and smell the flowers. Those flowers may have been covered in manure a few months ago but look at them now!
I love the way Rocky motivates Adonis Creed by saying, 'One step, one punch, one round at a time'. It's a great mantra to have. It's easy to get lost in the past, and just as easy to feel overwhelmed by the future. Just take the next step.
So, what's brought this on? I've had a good week. This is after last week my husband having covid and isolating in the spare room. Hats off to all the single mothers out there. It's exhausting! But despite the biggest win last week being that I managed to feed everyone in the house, this week I feel I've achieved a few breakthroughs.
I can look back at the last week without being annoyed I lost a week. I gained a week with my 2 sons, playing games and watching Star Wars from Episode 3-9. (I've told them they can't watch Episodes 1 & 2 until they are 35 or ever).
So, it's OK to look back. To feel the sense of achievement. Success means different things to different people. For me, last week's victory was knowing I had managed to keep my kids and husband alive. This week, success is seeing friends, date night, having fun with my boys and securing two major coaching & leadership training contracts for the next academic year.
'It's OK to look back but don't stare' (Anon).
So reframing the past and celebrating success is important.
But if you struggle to look forward, get Rocky in your ear - One step, one punch, one round at a time.
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